There are no hard feelings about the new wedding announcement

[Udders]

Back then ribbing a post made it a "No Ribs." You have not lingered sufficiently long enough, sir.

SpititoutSocrates or however his name was written did that. What a fucking idiot.

@ItsMyDealWade comment?

 

[EraGodless]

Ive waited longer to say " I love you" to girls.

So, I'm not being a prude or whatever? My mother died from lung cancer (she languished for a few years). It took my dad more than 5 years to get out of the fog and depression to even attempt a new relationship. It wasn't even he who started it either- it was some random chick from 30 years prior who knocked on the door.

The point is, Jon died unexpectedly. She got over that shit real quick.

 

[TorqueWheeler]

So, I'm not being a prude or whatever? My mother died from lung cancer (she languished for a few years). It took my dad more than 5 years to get out of the fog and depression to even attempt a new relationship. It wasn't even he who started it either- it was some random chick from 30 years prior who knocked on the door.

The point is, Jon died unexpectedly. She got over that shit real quick.

No, you're not. I defended her when Bam first found this thinking maybe she found someone who was going to take care of her and her kids but this dude has been through more jobs in the last two years than Pat has had in his entire life so she certainly isn't marrying him for his money. Now it seems like they were dating within a few months at most after Jon suddenly died. If she was cheating on him that's one thing but actually getting into a serious relationship and then announcing a marriage when your husband hasn't even been in the ground for a year yet is insane to me.

 

[Salted Earth Truffle]

So, I'm not being a prude or whatever?

Not a prude, just misguided. They’ve done studies on this and people who were happily married are more likely to remarry quickly after the death of a spouse. Their norm is to be in a happy marriage and they are very motivated to return to their norm. Just because it’s not what you or I (think we) would do doesn’t make it creepy or wrong.

Who exactly would benefit from them staying miserably single? Certainly not the dead spouse. Anyone close to them should want them to be happy, especially if they still have young children who need to see a living example of a healthy adult relationship if they’re to have any hope of having their own someday.

It’s kind of sinister to expect someone to mope for some arbitrarily dictated period of time for the sake of appearance. No one’s opinion matters enough to be indefinitely miserable for it. Anyone who’d expect that of you by definition doesn’t deserve that level of influence on your life.

I’ve seen it both ways: My uncle was in love with my aunt from the time they were 10, they were married for 45 years and had kids and grandkids. She died almost two years ago and he has zero interest in ever remarrying. He secludes himself and talks to her all day. He sleeps with one of her dresses pressed against his face. I totally respect that that’s what he feels like doing right now. It pisses me off that people keep trying to fix him up when he’s been very clear he has no desire to be with another woman ever.

Another relative started dating a month after his wife died. They’d discussed it at length and she’d said that, if she died first, she’d want him to move on quickly and have someone to take care of him. The idea of him being alone scared her more than the prospect of her own death. He was utterly devastated when she died, but his kids reminded him what their mother had emphasized: Being miserable wouldn’t bring her back and would only further hurt him.

TL;DR: Different people have different needs and it’s really nobody’s business. But projecting nefarious intent or callousness onto widowed individuals who choose not to extend their misery is pretty fucking low.

 

[EraGodless]

Not a prude, just misguided. They’ve done studies on this and people who were happily married are more likely to remarry quickly after the death of a spouse. Their norm is to be in a happy marriage and they are very motivated to return to their norm. Just because it’s not what you or I (think we) would do doesn’t make it creepy or wrong.

Who exactly would benefit from them staying miserably single? Certainly not the dead spouse. Anyone close to them should want them to be happy, especially if they still have young children who need to see a living example of a healthy adult relationship if they’re to have any hope of having their own someday.

It’s kind of sinister to expect someone to mope for some arbitrarily dictated period of time for the sake of appearance. No one’s opinion matters enough to be indefinitely miserable for it. Anyone who’d expect that of you by definition doesn’t deserve that level of influence on your life.

I’ve seen it both ways: My uncle was in love with my aunt from the time they were 10, they were married for 45 years and had kids and grandkids. She died almost two years ago and he has zero interest in ever remarrying. He secludes himself and talks to her all day. He sleeps with one of her dresses pressed against his face. I totally respect that that’s what he feels like doing right now. It pisses me off that people keep trying to fix him up when he’s been very clear he has no desire to be with another woman ever.

Another relative started dating a month after his wife died. They’d discussed it at length and she’d said that, if she died first, she’d want him to move on quickly and have someone to take care of him. The idea of him being alone scared her more than the prospect of her own death. He was utterly devastated when she died, but his kids reminded him what their mother had emphasized: Being miserable wouldn’t bring her back and would only further hurt him.

TL;DR: Different people have different needs and it’s really nobody’s business. But projecting nefarious intent or callousness onto widowed individuals who choose not to extend their misery is pretty fucking low.

That's a lot of words to say that she's a whore who doesn't care who she shacks up with.

 

[BakersfieldChimp]

That's a lot of words to say that she's a whore who doesn't care who she shacks up with.

She just needs that 8"+ kielbasa. It's very clear why she left Pat. I mean, other than him being a loser faggot.

 

[RaggotFetard]

I don't want to sound like a dick or nothing, but getting married a year after your second husband died, is fucking weird (borderline psycho). Especially when you consider that she probably started dating just a few months after Jon "unexpectedly died."

Plot twist- what would happen if Ade really is a cunt and she killed Jon? Pat fucking sucks, but it takes a special whore to cheat with their husband's good friend (while she's pregnant). She gave zero fucks about the possible repercussions.

 

[Butterknife]

So, I'm not being a prude or whatever? My mother died from lung cancer (she languished for a few years). It took my dad more than 5 years to get out of the fog and depression to even attempt a new relationship. It wasn't even he who started it either- it was some random chick from 30 years prior who knocked on the door.

The point is, Jon died unexpectedly. She got over that shit real quick.

I agree with you 100%. Ade's a whooah.

 

[DanMullen'sRetardedNephew]

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Someone please post the drawing of him grinning cheekily while he's throwing the pills down his wife's gullet. Probably my all time favorite piece of OnA subreddit art.

 

[SFWA liaison]

She married Jon 7 months after filing for divorce with Pat and 3 months after it was finalized. He gave her kids and raised A.S. as his own daughter. Remarrying fast worked out that time, why not now?

you niggas would rather she showed her children a noncommittal, casual relationship as an example? Jew mentality

I'm Team Ade+Joe

 

[Robert's Gift to Patty]

PCJ's last load hasn't even slipped out of her yet and she's remarrying. Nawt good. And apparently this guy's work history is spotty? Come on, Ade.

 

[EraGodless]

She married Jon 7 months after filing for divorce with Pat and 3 months after it was finalized. He gave her kids and raised A.S. as his own daughter. Remarrying fast worked out that time, why not now?

you niggas would rather she showed her children a noncommittal, casual relationship as an example? Jew mentality

I'm Team Ade+Joe

Imagine Jon was your brother or friend- you would be like whatever if she got remarried a year after your brother or friend died? If she's getting remarried already, she was dating this stiff 6 months or so ago. Jon's body wasn't even cold.

 

[EraGodless]

 

[SFWA liaison]

Imagine Jon was your brother or friend- you would be like whatever if she got remarried a year after your brother or friend died? If she's getting remarried already, she was dating this stiff 6 months or so ago. Jon's body wasn't even cold.

look she stayed with Pat for 9 years so I'm not going to praise her decision-making skills, yes 15 months is quick I'm not denying that. But you have to balance the whoredom equation with the need of giving the kids a male role model and a complete family.

Being a single mom of three in her 40s is not a good situation to be in. Marriage to a decent dude fixes that. Waiting has its costs.

 

[TorqueWheeler]

Imagine Jon was your brother or friend- you would be like whatever if she got remarried a year after your brother or friend died? If she's getting remarried already, she was dating this stiff 6 months or so ago. Jon's body wasn't even cold.

I don't think anyone is saying Ade shouldn't be able to move on or even discrediting anyone else's experience. We're just saying how we feel about it and, for me, to be dating again within a few months and involving your kids and a new partner's kids in the whole thing is insane and the sort of reaction a small child would have when they don't want to process something bad happened. And it is literally just a few months based on the pictures of them all together.

By all means, meet someone, become friendly, get close and start dating but also be decent enough to respect your husband and your children enough to allow them to sufficiently mourn their dad, who died out of fucking nowhere, before you get married again.

 

[EraGodless]

I don't think anyone is saying Ade shouldn't be able to move on or even discrediting anyone else's experience. We're just saying how we feel about it and, for me, to be dating again within a few months and involving your kids and a new partner's kids in the whole thing is insane and the sort of reaction a small child would have when they don't want to process something bad happened. And it is literally just a few months based on the pictures of them all together.

By all means, meet someone, become friendly, get close and start dating but also be decent enough to respect your husband and your children enough to allow them to sufficiently mourn their dad, who died out of fucking nowhere, before you get married again.

I think we are in agreement, Torque.

 

[Faggot Boqposter]

Explaining the decisions of small town white trash is like explaining the decisions of your average ghetto jig….

And this girl is as white trash as it comes.

 

[EraGodless]

look she stayed with Pat for 9 years so I'm not going to praise her decision-making skills, yes 15 months is quick I'm not denying that. But you have to balance the whoredom equation with the need of giving the kids a male role model and a complete family.

Being a single mom of three in her 40s is not a good situation to be in. Marriage to a decent dude fixes that. Waiting has its costs.

The male "role model" can't hold a job for shit and he looks like a fucking pud. Granted, he looks great compared to Patrick, but next to a regular non-man child, he's just a basic dude who brings baggage into the relationship on his own.

 

[Butterknife]

Explaining the decisions of small town white trash is like explaining the decisions of your average ghetto jig….

And this girl is as white trash as it comes.

This is a fair point. Portage, WI has 10k people meaning everyone knows each other. You find another decent divorcee/widow, you better lock em down quick. There aren't a lot of options.

 

[Turk February]

If you really think about it, Pat's life kind of sucks. No, seriously, just close your eyes and imagine it. It's not good. Right?