My Israeli Saga
If during this story I seem to be a worthless and confused cuckold it’s because: a) I was trying to do a sort of Zen/Daoist flow-with-everything-no-matter-what thing, and b) I was absolutely a confused cuckold.
I met a Sephardic Orthodox Jewish Israeli girl on an Israeli-owned website called BlogTV in May 2010. She was, at the time, the most beautiful woman I had ever seen and I fell in love with her over a brief period via speaking on Skype. I was 21. One night, after about a month of talking, I heard a baby crying from the other room: it was her daughter. I learned she had two kids and was unhappily married to an abusive husband. Being a white knight (and somewhat of a moron), I thought the Universe was calling me to rescue her from the cruelest of fates. I came to visit her in Rehovot, September 2010. Over a 10-day trip, we consummated our relationship in my hotel room and I went home.
Over the course of the next few years we remained in a long-distance relationship (me in CA and WA, her in Israel). In this span of time, I learned the following:
1) Her three year old (at the time) son told her that his dad, her husband* “touched” and “hurt” his bottom.
2) She naturally asked a Rabbi’s advice on how to handle this and he gave her some that she followed. The advice? “Ask him if there’s something you’re not doing to satisfy him sexually.”
3) After she asked her husband what she could do better, his appetites got increasingly more violent and bizarre. He would beat her and bite her tell she bled. Wake her up with forced sex, fist her against her will, etc. **
4) Falling deeper for me and fed up with him, she asked her husband for a ‘get’*** in November 2011. He refused.
5) After that, he became suspicious of her being possibly unfaithful and so downloaded spyware on their home computer (our only source of communication) which went undetected.
6) He surveilled and recorded us speaking/masturbating with one another on Skype for about six months; in June 2012 he granted her a get.
7) In the court proceedings, he made the case to the Rabbanut that their children should be his sole custody, considering her impropriety. To make his case, his lawyer played for the courts footage of us masturbating, (she told me many such instances were played in the courtroom).****
8) As the case raged on her first lawyer presumably received a payoff from his lawyer, leading him to tell her there wasn’t much he could do and she would have to give him the children,
9) She made a complaint to a higher court, then a higher court, then another court claiming injustice and corruption by his attorney, her attorney, and two of the three rabbi judges. After over a year of this, her friend who was friends with a higher-up made the problem go away and the court eventually ruled to split the custody. The case ended in July 2014,*****
10) In September 2014 she had a one night stand with a British guy she met at a karaoke bar, she told me the morning after, (it hurt, but I forgave her; as I was smitten and not perfectly faithful myself (nor as honest))
11) Our emotional bond grew to become more codependent. It was clear we were in deep, and a move had to be made. I started the wheels in motion to move to Israel,
12) She informed me that the courts would never let us get married if I wasn’t converted to Judaism and the courts would see to it that her children were removed from the home if it was known that she was shacking up with a goy. As a white knight, I thought I could overcome all of this, convert, and live happily ever after,
13) I cracked open the books and began learning some things about the Tribe (i.e. a lot of stuff you guys already know),
14) In light of this study, my mission changed ever so slightly; moving to Israel was still very much on the table, but the purpose had shifted. Yes, I loved her. Yes, I wanted to be with her. But now I also wanted to pierce the veil of Zionism from the inside, (taking a tip from good old Saul Alinsky).
I got on a plane for Israel, April 17, 2015. That’s when things got weird…
To be continued.
*Hearing the details of these stories from my vantage point will no doubt lead you to believe what I believed; (i.e. he’s a villain straight out of a comic book). Little did I know then, what we all know now: he’s not especially Evil, he’s just Jewish. Much more on him later.
**I don’t know how implausible this will sound to American listeners this far removed from the drama. When I tell it in person (rare cases) much of it is hard for me to fathom, so I can only imagine what it’s like for the listener. In retrospect, the most chilling aspect was how commonplace it was treated by all parties involved and how mundane it ended up seeming when more of the cultural context became fleshed out. Since you guys are woke on the JQ, I reckon very little of what will unfold in this saga will surprise you.
*** As some of you likely know, the only way an Orthodox Jew can get divorced is if the husband serves the wife a get, she can request he give her one, but he has to be the one to serve it. It's the opposite of here, where seemingly only women file. We are beyond cucked.
****I don’t know why it took more than one instance.
*****It was so fucking weird how it all ended so quickly and anticlimactically.