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Am I ethically obligated to tell my GF I was an addict and went to rehab?

RobertMewler

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I told her that I “used to have a serious drug problem” way back in the fall. I just never told her the details.

She’s moving in, we’re talking about having some kids and getting married asap. I just don’t want this to bite me in the ass years down the road.
Is she that cutie you met at the conference? Way to go!
 

BonnieMcFarlaneMe2

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Do I think you owe it specifically to her? No. Do I think you’ll ever use again? No. But if you plan to have children with her then your “addict gene” has about a 50% chance of showing up in any of your children. Doesn’t mean they’ll act on it but at the very least they’re predisposed to it: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/is-addiction-genetic
I think it’s at least worth bringing up the severity of your past problems before you have children with her. If you’re still dating the chick that’s 20 years younger than you then your ex wife is going to be furious regardless of how many guys she’s fucking right now. Probably cause even more friction with your existing child(ren). That’s my two cents. You’re a good guy, good luck. Keep your fawkin head on a swivel.
 
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You don't have to tell her. You're the man, you lead the relationship and make the decisions (source: The Bible, nature).

And as the man, you know the best decision is to not tell her shit that isn't relevant, because as an emotional woman she'll overreact and cause a scene.
 
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To clarify my last comment. Obviously you overcoming a serious drug problem is the complete opposite of weakness, but most women are instinctual and emotional and she might see it (feel it) that way. It's like telling her there's heart disease in your family or you have a Down syndrome cousin. Shit happens.
 

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Do I think you owe it specifically to her? No. Do I think you’ll ever use again? No. But if you plan to have children with her then your “addict gene” has about a 50% chance of showing up in any of your children. Doesn’t mean they’ll act on it but at the very least they’re predisposed to it: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/is-addiction-genetic
I think it’s at least worth bringing up the severity of your past problems before you have children with her. If you’re still dating the chick that’s 20 years younger than you then your ex wife is going to be furious regardless of how many guys she’s fucking right now. Probably cause even more friction with your existing child(ren). That’s my two cents. You’re a good guy, good luck. Keep your fawkin head on a swivel.
There's no addict gene, it's just Jewish propaganda to make people think they're helpless.
 

goo gobbler

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"Oi vey there's a gene that makes you addicted to things that don't exist in nature goy. Don't ask how that would happen or why we evolved so many clearly detrimental traits like suicidality and being a woman"
i agree with you but it sounds like they just word this shit retarded in headlines
The genetic connection to addiction comes through inherited levels of dopamine, a neurotransmitter made in your brain. Think of dopamine as your brain’s reward center. Basically, it acts as a “feel-good” hormone.

High levels of dopamine can fuel poor impulse control and tilt someone toward addictive behaviors.
in other words it's just lack of self control, so harry powell's children could wind up having coke on cheeseburgers instead of just coke by itself
 
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